Romantic love is a fraught topic for this blog. It’s an incredibly common motivation in film, but one that fat characters are so often disconnected from. Frequently, they are assumed to be undesirable, unlucky in love (whether unable to attract a mate or part of an unhappy couple), non-sexual, or grotesquely hypersexualized. Not including this post, I’ve written about fat characters in 112 movies that I’ve watched since starting this blog in June 2014. Here’s the breakdown of romantic relationships including fat people that start during and last through the ends of those films, by size and gender (both of which are, of course, rigid binaries):
Fat man, thin woman: 6
Fat woman, thin man: 4
Fat man, fat woman: 2
Fat woman, thin woman: 1
Although not a large or representative sampling of film as a whole, fat romance is present in a little over 10%. In addition, notice the most frequent pairing: when fat characters have storylines where they and another character fall in love, it’s commonly a fat man paired with a thin woman, who is commonly conventionally attractive.
I wanted to look at this trope, but was struggling to pick a title or two. I have the excellent fortune to have a partner who works at a brick-and-mortar video store, and thus access to thousands of titles. I called him at work.
“Do you have Only the Lonely?”
“Do you have King Ralph?”
Apparently, my fortune has its limits when crossing paths with my thing for 90s rom coms. I explained to Patrick that I was looking for a movie in which a fat man and a thin, conventionally attractive woman fall in love, and are still together at the end of the film. I had called during a slow night; when I arrived at the store an hour later, this pile was waiting for me:
And he had only gone through the comedy section and pulled films based on his personal knowledge of the plots.
It’s not like this phenomenon is shrouded in mystery. In a culture where most filmmakers are straight men, and art has traditionally catered to the straight male gaze, there is more leeway for a male character to be a relatable Joe Six Pack (or lack thereof) and less for a female character to deviate from widely accepted beauty standards. On top of this, most widely-distributed films get made with box office numbers in mind. The result: something “refreshing” or “progressive” usually takes a baby step or two away from convention, fearful of alienating audiences (and operating under the assumption that the audience isn’t already alienated). However, because the change in convention is so often discrete, it’s easier to isolate and inspect what it means to have fatness as an element in an otherwise normative film romance. Does fatness have an effect on how love and desire are portrayed? Gender? Does having a fat lover reify the expectation that a female character conform to beauty standards, or does it provide opportunity to subvert those expectations? Is there a film out there that meets the aforementioned criteria and includes people of color besides The Nutty Professor?
Since this dynamic crops up time and time again in the pool of films that are appropriate topics for CPBS, I intend to take a closer look at it through a series of articles. Do you remember last year, when I said I was going to do a series of articles about Philip Seymour Hoffman’s career and then I didn’t? This will be kind of like that, except this time, it will actually exist. I’m starting with two films that I have easy access to: Superbad and Knocked Up.