If you don’t follow Your Fat Friend on Medium or Twitter, maybe you want to make that part of your New Year’s Resolution. Her writing is insightful, emotionally resonant, and uncompromising. Her most recent article is an open letter to director/fashion designer Tom Ford on his debut film Nocturnal Animals, specifically the use of fat women’s bodies as symbolic imagery and her own experience as part of a theater audience.
It was neither the first nor the last time an artist or intellectual I loved expressed their disdain for me. All because of the body I have. All because of the way I look.
I wonder if they ever imagined me reading or viewing their work. I wonder if they thought of lecturing me on the dangers of the body I have, or if they stop short, surmising that I might have heard that before.
I wonder if they know fat people, or if they’ve come to love any of us.
I’d also like to take this opportunity to let you know that I’m going to be busy with theater projects in January, so I won’t be able to update CPBS next month. However, if you think you’d like to contribute a guest piece, please reach out to me with a pitch: pandabearshape at gmail dot com.
I hope you have as safe and peaceful a holiday season as possible.